The Restraining Order

NarcissistA few weeks ago, my fiance went with me to pick up my daughter, as he has for the past several months. He usually sits in the car and checks email on his phone. This day, however, he looked out the window at my daughter who was getting ready to get out of the car. As I walked over to get my daughter from her Dad’s car, I saw my ex staring at me in my peripheral vision. As I got closer, I finally looked. He wasn’t staring at me. He was staring past my at my fiance. He yelled loudly, “You got a problem?!” My fiance got out of the car and said “Yeah, I do, but I’m not going to do anything about it in front of

your daughter” He stayed by his car the whole time. Meanwhile, I was signaling to my ex that our daughter was sitting right there. (She shouldn’t see this.) He stopped. He got her out and said goodbye. As I was walking over to our car, my ex yelled, “I’m calling 911!” My fiance said, “Okay” and got back in the car. My ex was sitting there on the phone when we left. I figured he was trying to start something for some particular reason, as is his way. A few weeks later, my fiance got a call from a cop friend from where he used to live that my ex was trying to have him served¬†with a restraining order. We still haven’t received it. My ex probably can’t find out my fiance’s address. I’m really curious to see what he’s claiming. He told our daughter in the last few weeks that someone tried to kill him. I don’t know if that is a recent attempt or in the past, but WHY would you tell your 5-year-old daughter that!? I’m thinking he’s trying to say that his life was threatened on the day that he called 911 (supposedly). This is just an example of the kinds of things that malignant narcissists will try to get a rise out of you (or for whatever reason).

Trouble to Come

I don’t mean to be a pessimist here, but having known this particular narcissist for 10 years now, I know that things aren’t over. There’s always trouble to come. He was nice a few days ago. I sent a reminder by text that I would be picking up our daughter at 5 on Thursday for the Easter holiday. Usually this would evoke anger in him. He’d usually ignore it by text, maybe saying a little remark at pick-up, but this time, he actually replied back, “Thanks. Our schedule is confusing”. Knowing him, when he’s nice, something is up. Mark my words. He’s got SOMETHING in the works. Either he is going to appeal his previous appeal to the state supreme court, he has filed another restraining order against one of us (ok, I just realized I didn’t post about that yet. I will soon), or he has something else up his sleeve. Not to mention, he’s REALLY going to be livid when he finds out that my fiance and I are getting married soon. I’ll keep you posted!

There is HOPE!
There is HOPE!